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We've all heard it.

Heck, you might have even said it yourself:

"The struggle is real."

And you'd be right. Life isn't always sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes we experience endings and losses so heartbreaking they leave us wondering if our heart will ever recover. Or we face challenges and shortcomings that make us question what we're made of and who we really are.

And I know what it's like to feel like you're doing your best — and yet your best still doesn't quite feel like enough.

Here's the thing: even though every single one of us goes through moments like this, we often don't talk about it. Let alone acknowledge it.

Most of us tend to hide how hard it really is — and sometimes even from ourselves. Because somewhere along the way, we learned that struggling means we're failing. Or somehow, we're not good enough. Not smart enough. Just... not enough.

But I want to tell you something I've realized over the years, and the fact that you're reading this right now makes me suspect it's true for you too: It takes courage to keep showing up every day the way you do.

It takes strength, resilience, and grit to keep moving forward when life gets heavy. You've made it this far — and you've carried more than most will ever know.

So believe me when I say: you have nothing to prove.

You don't always have to "push through" or "be so hard on yourself" all the time. Sure, there may be moments when you need a little fire under you to get moving and maintain momentum. But at the very same time, I wholeheartedly believe we can all begin showing up for ourselves from a place of greater understanding, compassion, and a bit more tenderness.

And right here is where that begins.

It begins with taking a moment to truly notice yourself — and honor how far you've come and how much you've grown along the way.

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Changing Your Relationship With What You Feel

But here's something else I've learned: staying centered when life challenges us most isn't about pushing harder or suppression. It's about changing your relationship with what you feel.

This is the real shift. Not denying the struggle. Not pretending it doesn't exist. But fundamentally transforming how you relate to it.

Think about it. When you're in the middle of anxiety, anger, sadness, or frustration, it feels like you. Like that emotion is the truth of who you are in that moment. And so you either fight it, suppress it, or let it consume you. You identify with it so completely that there's no separation between the feeling and your sense of self.

But what if there was?

What if you could feel deeply and fully without being defined by what you feel? What if emotions were temporary visitors rather than permanent residents of your identity?

This is where the "I AM not that" practice comes in.

The "I AM Not That" Practice

Let me be clear: this practice doesn't mean denying what you're feeling. Your emotions are real. They are valid. But the "I AM" in you — the steady, constant part of your being — is not limited to a feeling.

Emotions come and go. But who you truly are always remains.

Here's how it works:

If you're feeling anxious, pause and take a deep breath. Become fully present. Then say to yourself:

Yes, I'm feeling anxious right now. And yet, the truth of who I AM is NOT that. I AM not anxiety. I AM not that.

Say it again, letting the words settle in:

Yes, I'm feeling anxious right now. And yet, the truth of who I AM is NOT that. I AM not anxiety. I AM not that.

And while we used anxiety as an example, any emotion can be applied to this practice—anger, sadness, frustration, or whatever else arises.

Why This Practice Is So Powerful

What makes this practice so powerful is that by naming the emotion and creating space between it and your sense of self, you accomplish something meaningful: you acknowledge and validate what you're feeling while simultaneously realizing that these feelings are temporary visitors. They do not define who you are or dictate your life.

This practice — which can become a way of being — allows you to respond from a place of awareness rather than reactivity. It gives you the opportunity to realize that you can feel deeply and fully without being consumed by it.

You're learning to meet difficult emotions without the fear, shame, or harsh self-criticism you might have been accustomed to in the past. You're not bypassing your emotions or pretending they don't matter. You're honoring them while maintaining your connection to the deeper truth of who you are.

It's here — in this space between the feeling and your identity — where you reconnect with yourself and who you truly are.

Life Still Has Its Storms

Let me be honest: life will still have its ups and downs, challenges and heartaches. This practice won't make your struggles disappear. But with this practice, you'll be better equipped to weather the storms.

Because the real transformation isn't about eliminating difficult emotions. It's about changing your relationship with them. It's about recognizing that you are not your anxiety, your anger, your sadness, or your fear. You are the awareness that observes these feelings. You are the steady ground beneath the storm.

Opening the Door to Something Beautiful

This way of being opens the door to so many beautiful things.

It creates space for greater presence and self-awareness, with sincere acceptance of what is. It makes room for more ease in your body, more softness in your heart, more clarity in your mind. And perhaps most importantly, it creates a kinder, gentler way of being with yourself.

Not because life has suddenly changed. But because your relationship with yourself has.

When you stop identifying with your struggles and start witnessing them, everything shifts. You move through life with less resistance, less judgment, less fear. You meet yourself with compassion instead of criticism. You honor your humanity without being consumed by it.

The Invitation

So here's my invitation to you: the next time you find yourself in the grip of a difficult emotion, pause. Take a breath. And remember: you are not that feeling. You are the one who feels it. You are the awareness that observes it. You are so much more than any single emotion, any single struggle, any single moment.

You have nothing to prove.

You've already shown up.

You've already carried so much. And you're still moving forward!

That's enough.

YOU are enough.

Lotsa Love,
Midori <3

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